Maybe you’ve realized that you deserve something better than what you have now. Maybe after a work-related issue, your partner has changed and you have less patience. Perhaps a health scare —yours or your partner’s— has made you both rethink how you want to live. Or maybe someone asked you how you put up with so much tension, or you’ve found yourself looking at affectionate couples, wishing to bring back those good times…

Whatever the reason, you’ve decided that something needs to change. You’ve realized that just wishing for fewer conflicts won’t make them go away —nor will it solve the problems. That’s why you’re considering starting couples therapy.

When do couples seek help?

Studies show that, on average, couples wait around six years from the first signs of trouble before seeking professional help.

Lack of time —due to work, children, or responsibilities— often pushes the relationship into the background. Difficulties in resolving conflicts create discomfort and distance. Couples may accumulate hurt, frustration, and disappointment until they reach a breaking point.

The current state of romantic relationships is not very encouraging: statistics show divorce rates close to 50%. Couples face major challenges in maintaining stability, yet we all recognize the importance of nurturing and growing in a stable, loving relationship.

What are the benefits of couples therapy?

According to a study by the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy, 90% of people attending couples therapy report improvements in their emotional well-being. Nearly two-thirds also notice better overall health and work performance. Furthermore, three out of four couples say their relationship has improved.

Couples therapy helps us accept disagreements and conflict as natural parts of a relationship —opportunities for growth rather than threats.

In the sessions, you ‘unlearn’ the automatic ways of handling conflict that you picked up from your fathers, mothers, brothers, sisters, or school… and begin to find your own way.

Common issues like children, in-laws, money, sex, or work often lead to deeper themes in therapy: fear of not being loved, of failure, of being controlled, or of abandonment. Sessions help us learn to express our feelings and needs more clearly.

Common reasons couples seek therapy

• Communication issues
  
  
• Disagreements about raising children
  
  
• Conflicts around extended families
  
  
• Wanting to rekindle the spark
  
  
• Breaking inherited patterns from fathers or mothers
  
  
• Infidelity
  
  
• Jealousy